It is Indeed a difficult job to bring up children .You are ( both parents ) so engaged and immersed in your own activities that one may even forget what are all their needs , but then we have to recollect that our kid also is growing up and one day has to flee our nest to learn his own new ways to live life.
Just like the new birdies your children are also now soul who are learning to flutter their wings and are eager to relocate and fly further in the sky but this certainly does not mean that they do not need you , They need your love to learn to pass this shift really very smooth for both you and your children , so that both of you are happy with each another .One has to learn that Children will be leaving their parents behind one day while they will be finding and realizing their dreams and parents you will still have to love them , because you will.
Generally it is the mom one who feels the pain , not that the Dear DADs does not sense it but then they conceal their emotions and tears both . it is not the indication to sit quietly and pout but perceive a new you in your self,explore your hobbies,your dreams and lot a new significant to your beings .
few tips when your children are maturating up will help you lead a happy life with your children , because if they are Happy you are Happy :
Give your Children their own very space. Nothing more to say in it. All kids when they are growing up need their own space. To do and experience their life in a fun way , do give them their space. You just have to tell them what is right and what is wrong. Make them understand in a polite way about the choices they have.
Let your children define their own dreams. Don’t let them follow a path you desired but couldn’t fulfil. Understand them and let them chase their own dreams. Timelines are always important. Don’t let them waste their growing up years in chasing your dreams ,let them chase their own dreams.
3. Criticize but Understand them as well :
It is not so significant to drop moment with your children while nagging them or criticizing them but more important is to spend teaching lessons learnt from your experience and precept them how to deal up with the storms in their time.
Though money is really important but what children are after are the are the lovely moments spent together with their friends , so free them enough prosperous moments which they will enjoy with their same aged ones.
It is not exclusive that the elders only who will be shipping their emotions but children also need to learn how to touch correct emotions at correct age and with correct frequencies.So make them learn the realities of life.
Most Importantly during the growth period thatch them the art of forgiveness , and you also practice the same.