Uncle was cuddling Sona so tightly that she thought she was going to feel pain soon. He somehow began messaging her thoroughly even when she was resisting him because she was not feeling comfortable somewhere inside.
My cutie pie, just a moment dear?, she heard him say.
“Uncle I want to go home” , she struggled
“Here it’s just over, see you said no and uncle has left you right. Come back tomorrow and I would give you a big chocolate”, said uncle lovingly.
Well, most child abuses begin just like this and without your knowledge your child might be a victim. The most closes of your friends or family might be abusing your child and you might even not have a clue of it.
Child abuse does not affect girl children alone, even small boys around us are being abused. However, career and financial freedom requires both men and women spend at least 8-10 hours away from home. Even if you were a stay at home mom, you would not be able to guard your child 24X7.
Hence it is very important to you as a mindful parent to teach a child small things which he/she has to keep in mind while living in this society. You have to teach them the difference between good and bad touch, and how to be bold.
Teach Children to Be Bold
The first thing you have to take care in childcare is to teach them how to be bold and independent. In the story above if Sona had been bold she would surely have sternly told her uncle to stop as soon as she felt uncomfortable.
Children have a comfort level within themselves which is an inherent guard in their system; however it is you who have to make them understand how to react when there is a trouble to this level.
Tell them that it is okay to talk loudly, boldly and sternly if he/she feels uncomfortable with anything pertaining to touching her.
Good Touch Bad Touch
When your child is 2 to 3 years old make it a practice of spending few minutes near a human body chart. Tell him/her which part of body is completely private to him/her. Tell him to make sure nobody should be allowed to touch these parts.
You should teach them to always stay at places where people would be around so that they are never alone in any place.
Never Trust Anyone Completely, Make sure to double check the history of anyone (even relatives) before you trusts them with your child.