Tucked within layers of bedsheets she was keenly listening to her mom reading to her.
“Locked in the high castle she waited and waited for the Prince”, read her mom.
“Mom!” whispered she, “Why didn’t her parents teach the Princess Karate?”
“Would she have fought herself instead of waiting for the Prince”, Pramila was shocked. She had remained ‘Just A Mother’ and not a Strong Woman.
She felt guilty and so were many other parents who received their molested daughters home.
#BangaloreMolestation Raised quite a lot of eyebrows, It did make us wonder what went wrong?
As women, we have always been seen as bodies, flesh and I everything else but not fellow souls.
That day – twitterati went viral with #YesAllWomen, with women sharing how each one was molested. How the society showed them to care less and work more.
Yes! it is true that #NotAllMen are sexual abusers, however, is the abusers were minority, how did they let the #BangaloreMolestation happen.
Women were abused and sexually assaulted by a sudden zombie turned men who were flesh-hungry. Forgetting that the same and flesh and skin gave them birth and fed them, men groped!
It is painful to write, and that is the reason I have been postponing, Yet! The recent news that the police is clueless to such an incident and they cannot find any EVIDENCE, made me think, and think again.
The feminine soul inside laughs at me when I think of the mess that has happened and how offhandedly it has been shoved off.
Molestation and Age Old Stories
I was in school, travelling in bus. An old man was sitting in a seat near where I was standing.
He asked me, “Pappa! You want to sit?”, I looked at his seat, there was no space, he directed me to his lap. I was 5 or 6 then.
I sat on his lap and then after a few minutes felt uncomfortable, I didn’t know then, that his making patterns on my thighs were abuse, but still I could sit no further.
Old men, young men, men – Uff! whom do we trust?
My grandmother would scowl at me the instance I smiled at a boy, Hey! wait- I was 6 then.
Yes! you have read my exact age, when I was 8 years old, I was taught not to smile at men – that would give a wrong signal. I have wondered how stupid my grandmother was to have ill-treated me.
Women! I now feel, how right she was.
It was a better be safe something she had implanted in me.
Tales of 60 year old molesting a child in the running bus, 20 year old molesting an aunty (pedaling they say) in trains, were all common even in my childhood.
However, we kept quite! we were kept quite!
By our parents, By our teachers and By all elders – whom we respected.
However, now we have moved across those barriers.
I see #YesAllWomen as a shout out from the phoenix birds and our modern Sita’s who have walked through abusive hands, fought them and stood against them.
If you thought by touching the skin – that is going to age and decay – you have attained glory, Oh! men, we heed none!
If remaining quiet we could grow equal to you in 50 years, what do you think speaking aloud will lead to?
Whom Do We Blame?
Sexual abuse is not a problem that is limited to Indian women alone, its a global one.
Yes, there are women in the US, UK, Europe and world over, who have similar complains. Women have been conditioned to ignore and brush off these abuses -Because she is -WOMAN.
So finally the whole country ended up asking
why woman would want to go out to enjoy a New Years Eve?
Why would they want to stay up late in a crowded street?
Well, one thing has to be understood, and understood clearly-
Our girls are given birth to, cherished and grown as equal as boys, and they have all rights to enjoy equally. It is now the turn of boys to understand.
Parenting Discrepancy and Lack of Responsibility
Parents need to firstly behave with responsibility. They go head over heels to provide every latest gadget launched in the market, just to get away from the guilt of not spending much time with their children.
They work their nights oil out to let their children be spoilt by misleading videos back home.
Are we as parents doing the right thing to this society?
Are we being responsible as parents?
I feel with the change in time and technology, it is important for parents to change too.
Compassion and empathy has to be taught – to men and women alike. There are a lot of issues going around you, sensitize your children with them.
Let them know of the 80 year old who was sexually assaulted and left to die bleeding because a Harpic can inserted into her anus piercing the small and large intestine.
Tell them stories of how children are trafficked and used like commodities.
Let them know how the fellow beings are suffering, how animals are getting extinct and why the environment is being played with.
Let children be able to understand between a friendly hug and an abuse!
Parents its going to be Super -Parenting from now!
Become a super mother and super father and enable your child to become a better being, who is socially responsible and empathetically alive towards his surroundings.
Buried under cartoons and gadgets would make them insensitive and ignorant. Who knows if they are not sensitized now, they would behave like beasts or mutant mules, with no expressions or compassion.
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