Career For Your Kids - The Dilemma Of Guiding

Choosing a Career for your child is tricky these days, the confusion prevails as to whether you need to just let your kid choose his own career or you need to guide him/her or you need to go through all the process of choosing a career.

Thenmathi Leelavathy – winner of content contest on overparenting and now an author with Simple Indian Mom has discussed about the different aspects you need to go trough while choosing a career for your child.

Kids Can Dream! Don’t Oblige Them To Live Your Dreams!

I dreamt of becoming a scientist… so should my kids! How obsessive it is!! Then your kids’ dreams will be fulfilled by your grandparents?

Absurd! Let your kids dream and live their life. No worry!  Your wishes may not be transferred to your child through genes, but your innate parenting skills, decision making etc., will absolutely influence your children.

Kids Are Always Inquisitive

When a kid sees anything for the first time in her life, it may be a new toy in her friend’s house or a differently coloured stone in a street.

Her curious mind starts to think and explore as much as possible through countless queries. Children usually experiment an activity or a thing for a period of time and switched to other and continue the pattern till they find an enduring interest to cherish.

Persistent Observation Does Wonders

Parents play a major role in identifying kids’ interests through persistent observation. It’s only possible for a parent to apparently understand a child’s stand in education or extracurricular activities.

Few kids are gifted with an understanding teacher to persuade them to choose their interests.  Interest is accountable for learning and creativity. So observe constantly and find her interest.

Set Up More Options, Let Them Choose!

Facilitating the children to be aware of choices available around them is very important to identify their interest/ passion as early as possible. It helps them to take wise decisions at the later stages such as choosing a career, life partner, etc.

Listen to your kid; See how her self-esteem gets boosted!

Spending time together with your kids and listening to them face to face, definitely boost up their self confident and self-esteem.

Hence they value themselves and their real interests and progress to succeed in life through positive approach.

Be a driving force! Kids need constant motivation all the time.

Help them to identify their interests and pave way to achieve them. Help them to get rid of their inhibitions to explore their interests to master it.

They never forget it whilst they are successful. It brings happiness to them, of course, that’s the meaning of our life!

Support your child to transform her interest to Passion

Once your child advances to explore her interest, support her when she falls short of strong significant actions. Help her to overcome all hurdles to move vigorously to achieve her passion.

Every child is unique. Understand and continue to support all the time. As a parent, you can help them to be successful and happy with your constant support and unconditional love.

In my case, my kids are unique in their own way of doing anything. One is a booklover, creative, kind, insightful and always lives in his imaginary world.

Other is bold, a math lover, responsible and curious. Though they have something in common, they definitely have a different interest and I hope I do my best to motivate them to be happy for what they are doing.

I am taking part in  Write Tribe Festival of Words #6 and today’s prompt is : Feature a guest – a guest post / an interview.  

Choosing Career For Your Child - The Dilemma Of Guiding Or Helping
Choosing Career For Your Child – The Dilemma Of Guiding Or Helping

10 Comments on Choosing Career For Your Child – The Dilemma Of Guiding Or Helping

  1. My kids are 9 (boy – Rishabh) and 5 (girl -Nishika). Though they are little, but still i feel worried about their careers. I do keep an eye on what they are doing and try to broaden their horizons by telling them that there is scope in everything these days. this article was very helpful!

  2. yes, Holly and Menaka, BUT, even though they have interest, they must struggle to establish it to become successful.. achieving dream also needs efforts. they will work harder but not with compulsion.. we can find successful people are who followed their dreams, not their parent’s dream or compulsion. if it happens, though convinced monetary wise sometimes.lose their peace and satisfaction.

  3. Bread and butter is the major requirement and I totally agree with you Holly! I think we need the children to learn different skills, fine tune some which can be come a career later and then let the decide the best

  4. I agree with Thenmathi,kids need our love and encouragement in choosing a career they want. We should not make them live our dreams. My daughter chose to change over from science to humanities after class 12 and decided to study law. I had hoped she would go in for a medical degree but supported her wish. Today she is a happy and confident advocate:)

  5. This addresses part of the equation, and I agree completely with the author – but if we only encourage our kids in their interests, there may not be a market for their skills and we want them to eat. Helping them to find the intersection of interests and marketable skills to develop is harder, and it’s especially hard to avoid pushing them to fulfill OUR dreams FOR them. They can’t all be doctors and engineers; they’re not all suited to it, and the world needs people to do so many other kinds of work! My only goal for my kids is that they be capable of taking care of themselves, and that they be mostly happy and fulfilled throughout their lives, whatever that means to them. I say “mostly,” because to tell a child that life is nothing BUT happiness is a lie and sets them up for disappointment. Yet, to let them think that a temporary setback or period of unhappiness is likely their lot in life is also to do them a great disservice.

  6. Understanding the likes and dislikes of kids and their natural flair to a subject is a great indicator in determining their career. Loved the idea of giving them options to make wise decisions. loved this thoughtful post.

  7. It’s so important to cheer the dream s of your child and support them. These daysmore and more parents are doing so, then earlier days. It should be realized that a child is also an individual who got hi/her own likes and interests.

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