Mindful Parenting, Mom, Parenting, Raising Mindful Kids The Miracle Of Mindfulness – How Motherhood Changed me The Miracle Of Mindfulness – Motherhood and Me How Motherhood Changed Me – Miracle Of Mindfulness I am writing this post as part of a blog train hosted by Pooja Kawatra of Mums & Babies with other 41 amazing moms who have come together to share their journey on ‘How Motherhood Has Changed Me To me Motherhood has been a Miracle, Yes! Miracle of Mindfulness. From the time I was pregnant with my first child I changed completely from inside. It was a feeling of added responsibility that I have been showered with. Intelligence and Behavior Children inherit their intelligence from their genes but their behavior is a cumulative effect of the environment, genes and what they are regularly exposed to. This is what I have believed from when I began understanding mindfulness. And I have made use of this understanding really well. I have been very clear in certain rules that I made once I knew I was pregnant and ardently followed them. Practicing Mindfulness During Pregnancy and After I have been a very strong believer that human mind has the power to attract what it needs – all you should know is how to actually attract. For this I had begun my mindfulness practice right during my pregnancy. It was a time tested practice and I was keen on practicing without fail on a daily basis. So from a very nonchalant person I started becoming a person who was weighing her deeds before doing them. I began becoming composed and also my though process began getting wider. Mindfulness – The Practice I practice mindfulness along with my children these days (husband too, but since we are talking only about motherhood today, I am not including my husbands mindfulness practice and how he de-stresses him-selves). My children have become more grounded and behave well (of course they have their masti too, they are children and being naughty is what we expect of them). I Treat My Children As Individuals and Not Our Extensions, and this has given a lot of space for my kids to make an identity for themselves uniquely, nothing copied. I Began Becoming More Socially Responsible I have two very energetic boys (Now! don’t give me that – Oh you gonna get a lot of dowry look, I sure am not going to be that normal Indian Mom). So my first thoughts about bringing them up to face this society is to make them aware of what is going on around them. I never miss out on what is happening around me, specially in India and the world. Watching NEWS and discussing about it is something that has become a habit in our family. We do not hesitate to debate if one of us feels strongly to oppose to others. It is evident that my children know about politics, sports, financial developments and of course the recent social media trends. When there was a major flood in Chennai, my children worked with me in supporting remotely the people in need and connecting them with food and shelter that was available close by. They stood shoulder to shoulder with me in extending a helping hand along with me. In fact I could see empathy in their eyes which made me feel elated and proud – and they were a couple of years younger then. The same was seen during the Jallikattu issue I Have Started Preaching Equality At Home I know every woman is a feminist by heart, Of course I call myself feminist too. For me feminism is not asking for equality, I know I am not inferior by any means and I just take care that I get my piece of cake when it is served. In fact I feel if men understand that women are counterparts of this society and there is no need to feel that they were sent across to take care of their home, parents and children, this earth would see happier families. Also I believe that many of these evils that we see these days such as sexual assault, molestation, domestic violence and abuse occur due to the fact that men are not taught properly at home. Being a mom, I strongly feel you need to teach your sons that women are to be treated with respect. I have never let them take women for granted or speak words that may degrade women. That is why I also teach my kids to cook, clean and do their work themselves (an ongoing process of course) I Am Ready To Fight Anywhere, Anytime – Against Injustice Be it a school PTM or in a crowded temple, if I feel there is something that is not right I never think twice to raise my voice. I know my children will do so too when it is their turn. This has brought about a lot of confidence in my children. They know I will stand by them if they were right. They know I will not be scared to fight against anyone if the need be. This is something that I have subconsciously instilled in them – a miracle of mindfulness I have always been grateful about. I Work Hard On Anything I Do I am pursuing my PhD (almost completing) and while I am at it I make sure I learn my subjects well, prepare for every exam and do my projects promptly. I can see appreciation in my childrens’ eyes everytime I do something sincerely. They learnt from me these simple things and I have always felt content about that. Even when I am blogging or Dealing with my sales in SIM Organics, my children come by to check on the what is going on, what it is that I am writing about and how I am doing in my business. For a 10 year old and 7 year old – they are doing exemplarily well and I am glad I am working hard everyday so that I could show my children all these things In fact I have understood from the beginning that parenting is not teaching our children how to behave but by living as you want your children to live Life is full of surprises – every new day brings with it something new to learn too. So as I was telling you in the begining this is a blog train and next in line is Jamie Chaw, my fellow blogger from Karmie’s blog A geeky software engineer, turned air stewardess (her childhood dream), turned SAHM (her lifetime dream)!!! She super loves travelling and is now on her biggest travel across the globe living in USA with her Mr. Hubby and 2 Chindian (Malaysian Chinese + Indian American) mixed up kids!!! Make sure you visit her blog to read her take on motherhood. How Motherhood Changed Me – Miracle Of Mindfulness Related Posts:Mindful Walking – An Easy Way To Get Rid Of…7 Seemingly Healthy Ideas That Can Prove To Be DangerousAn Interview with Varalakshmi Pooja Contest Winner…Gratitude – The Golden Thread That Strengthens…Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Google+ (Opens in new window) Menaka Bharathi is a Mindful Parenting Consultant and an Organic food Producer. She markets Indian Superfoods throug SIM Organics which taken in small quantities would help to maintain the health of the family and boost resistance against diseases. 30/10/2017 by menaka bharathi | 39 Comments 39 Comments on The Miracle Of Mindfulness – How Motherhood Changed me thanks supriya, it actually is important to maintain equality at home great thoughts on parenting styles. can relate to it totally. And yes equality at home is something I preach and follow. I could relate well with your views and practices on mindfulness. I too have chosen mindful parenting to make a difference in my son’s life. Happy to join with you on this blog train. Hey thanks Vinodhini! I am so glad you’re raising your sons to help those less fortunate, and also to treat women with respect as equals. These are so important in today’s 21st century world! I believe raising two boys is a lot of work, considering how naughty boys are, but you seem to be doing a terrific job. It’s wonderful that you teach them about how they’ve got to treat women. It’s so important to have this ingrained in our sons. And hey, pursuing a Ph.D. along with all this indeed commendable! Yes Karen, mindfulness changes how we see things and makes us better Thanks I loved every this post so much… Motherhood is an amazing blessing. 🙂 I started practicing mindfulness when I was pregnant and it completely changed the way I view things and how I want to raise my daughter. it gives you a great perspective on things. You seem to be a strong women for your kids and they would grow into adults full of gratitude and compassion. Loved your mindful approach for raising kids. This is such an insightful post and you sounds like a great mom. Enjoyed reading it. Thanks for sharing! This is really am apt and important article for moms in prenatal and post natal phase. the umportance of mindfullness is explained very well. Thanks for sharing Motherhood is blessing. Such a wonderful post. Thanks Aesha! All the best to you too Thanks a ton Shilpa! great post i love this, thanks for sharing Great read . I have a son and a daughter and try to teach them what I feel is right everyday . Motherhood defiantly gives you a different view in life . Motherhood has truly changed me. Great to know about your experience. Love the way you are bringing up your boys and how you are making a difference in their lives and those around you too. Proud of you and all the very best to you for your PhD too! Cheers! I really respect all the moms who teach their children, equality! I am glad I could read about your motherhood journey on this blog train. I have also started practicing mindfulness and it is helping me as a person and helping me be a better mother, a mother who is more patient and understands her child well. Motherhood is blessing . I can relate to becoming more aware socially. Thanks Aryn Yes Charu! and that is my priority You are most welcome Ria, keep up with my mindfulness posts to get into practicing Beautiful post. Could relate where you say you could fight anytime, anywhere for injustice! Indeed we got to set right examples for our kids. I love your study of mindfulness and the fact that you are teaching your sons how valuable their female counterparts (whether it be their mother, classmate, or future life partners) are to not only their lives but also the lives around them! You sound like an amazing mom and woman!Congrats on almost completing your PhD! Amazing! I try to work on mindfulness too and I find that this is so hard because as moms we multitask 24/7! I was much better about meditation and slowing down before kids! I’ve got to work more on this. Thanks for the tips! – @urbanohana Awesome Post!! keep it Up Thank you for this blog! I found it very helpful and encouraging for myself! Lovely post thanks for sharing Thanks Sharvi, I am truly humbled. I am trying to do something which I can and I feel doing my part to the society is my best contribution to it. Thanks Jean, I am trying my best I totally agree with you Jamie, They should be taught to respect everyone, I was more concerned about respect to women because I have felt that men respect women a little lesser Great that you are not only teaching ur kids empathy but actually teaching them 1st hand and exposing them at such an early stage! Kids should also be taught respect not just for women but for everyone… Then the world would be a better place! Xoxo, Jamie Chaw (http://karmie080808.blogspot.sg/) Menaka, you sound like such a wonderful mother. I love that you are teaching your sons to cook and clean and respect women and setting the example in empathy and helping others in need. Can I say I’m very proud of you! And I’d want all mommies of sons to raise them and teach them what you have taught your sons Thanks Sweta, I would prefer saying my sons would grow into compassionate people rather Extremely happy that you are raising two feminist sons! 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